Just Being With You, In The Now, During Deep Emotions

Just Being With You, In The Now, During Deep Emotions

But do you know what she was so upset about what morning? … what was compounding her trauma?  

I wasn't that her husband had just died.  It was that everyone at breakfast was avoiding her.  That until I came over no one had spoken to her, acknowledged her or even looked at her.  Indeed they all made efforts to actively avoid her by choosing to sit at the far end of the breakfast terrace.   That is what her dismay was about right at that moment.  That her pain and sadness, and thus her, were being ignored.

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"Are you going to call the Police on my mummy for being in the mens' washroom?"

"Are you going to call the Police on my mummy for being in the mens' washroom?"

A film crew member approached us with hands up saying "Please wait. There is filming in process".  Without a second of hesitation, my response was "sorry but the naked from the waist down child is about to poo" and we kept speed walking through the set.  Without stopping, the crying 5 year old with blood dripping down her leg; the naked from the waist down 2 year old; the friend and me shouting "keeping walking everyone" walked straight through the scene that was being filmed.

Before I had children I would never of dreamed of flouting such a request with such disregard.  If someone put a request to me I found it hard to deny it, even if it compromised my needs.  But something about becoming a mother changed me.  My inability to say "no" is disappearing.

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I see you feel very angry

I see you feel very angry

My 4 year old daughter just turned to the man with the long white beard, and in the calmest voice just said “I see you feel very angry”.

I cannot even begin to describe the shift in energy that I saw from this man, as someone validated his feelings; showed that they could see how he felt without judgement or with intention to try and get him to change his feelings of anger simple by telling him to “calm down”.

With no judgement she just met him where he was at with his emotions.

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